As the D-Day is nearby may be in a week's time and our bundle of joy whom we lovingly called kukriya as of now will be in our arms soon.
Jay has randomly given this name out of nowhere while they were on their way towards Meira's exam hall when they were three months pregnant.
And now this name has became a referral name to their bundle of joy during their conversations.
Obviously this is not the name they are going to give him/her.
This phase brings mother to a complete resting phase and father to work even more harder ..plan more ..makes him to think that he has to give a better life to his family.. To his baby ..to fulfill all his/her dreams..so ,he starts working more harder and harder.
Like Jay who did up and down from Jaipur to Delhi every alternate day for giving his Masters Examination without missing his office much as he wanted to secure his leaves to be with Meira on the main important day of their life ...to welcome their bundle of joy .
Jay who is already working as an Environmental Engineer at a reputed organizations in New Delhi..has already packed his bag and is ready to leave for Hyderabad anytime soon as he gets a call from Hyderabad..where his kukriya and his mom is staying right now ..at Meira's parents home.
Flashback
It was around 2012 ..and she remembered how she was upset and cried before Pooja her college Bff and said ...will she be getting someone who can accept her the way she is ??will she find someone like that in her life?The way sidharth is in pooji's life.
And now she has got the one...who appreciates her for the way she is.
She was from Women's Engineering college ...so no chance to get a boyfriend.. if we would have got a guy it was like a rose plant in a desert...haha lol
Her Computer Science group consisted of 8 members..few had bf's from their school time ..and other had made while coming in their 3-1.. third year's first semester.
As her college was under Osmania University so their first year was common for all the branches and gets diversified in their second year.
Except Meira,sushma and Sneha had no bf...but had crush on every other guy who fulfilled their criteria...haha lol
It's too much fun to study in a girl's college...people tend to think girls college means you will not be able to have fun as co-ed colleges ...but believe me we tend to enjoy much more.
If a guy comes to college..these girl gangs ..wouldn't leave them ...making him feel embarrassed.
Priyanka and Sana from our class ..who would tease guys walking on the road ...instead of girls feeling awkward boys used to ..then one can think how dangerous it might be to be in girls college..among many such girl gangs..who were famous fir some or the other acts.
Girls college gives you some benefits as well as some drawbacks ..Parents are least bothered where they are going and with whom is the benefit and drawback would be like you don't get to see species called Boys in the premises on a daily basis.
In the first year ..my father used to drop me whenever I planned to go out with my friends...so that he can know who and what kind of girls I am accompanying with.
I am sure .most of the girls of 90's era might have faced this kind of interrogation from their parents .
Telling them every girls name who is going out with me to just informing that I am going out with friends and will reach a bit lately ..we all grow up.
I think slowly we tend to become
"Not best But Good friends of Mother's"
Jay who did Engineering from Pune ,also had no Gf during his college life..haha so whenever they talked about their graduation days would say ..it would have been different if they both have been in the same college and met and have been each others bf and gf and enjoyed it's perks and punishments.
"Pause for a moment and get lost into it"
Like this pause phase of life ..pause ..yes you all heard it right ..this is phase of life which is making me to look back at my life..else we all have been running through out our life .
Trust the process
In our final year ..manisha my friend my benchmate started reading novels as she fell in love with kaushik.
Love makes us to do things which we never thought of.
Manisha always hated reading but now she started reading novels and coming up with the stories the very next morning and narrating it to our whole girls gang of 8 members.
Firstly,She started with Ravinder Singh's novel
"Can love happen twice?" And then she came with some horror books as well.
Among them one love story had left an imprint on my heart.
It was about Ronit and Trisha (names are not same as mentioned in that book).I forgot the name of the novel but remembered that story very well.
I am kind of person who don't tend to remember story of the movie which I might have watched recently but could remember this story till now.
As I always manifested that kind of story ..a fairytale for myself.
Ronit and Trisha had an arrange marriage and their relation develops love after marriage.
He let's her being her ...loves her the way she is ..he helped her to live every moment of her life to the fullest...go out with friends and have drink(as she had never tasted ).. slowly they falls for each other ... becoming best friends ..sharing everything.
Even I have fantasized this kind of love story...Ronit kind of guy to be in my life but was never sure whether I will get such or not.
Manisha came up with many stories but I was attracted towards the story of Ronit and Trisha.
Once Pooja took me for her shopping..Instead of helping her in her shopping I was just looking at a tall guy who came with his girlfriend to the same place.
I always tend to get attracted to tall and formally dressed guys so when Jay gets ready for his office I silently admire him.
When I came to Delhi for the first time ...we planned to visit Akshardham..he joined me in the mid way ..I still remember that scene...the way he looked holding a box of dahi bhalla in one hand.
"Boundaries of life are merely a creation of self"
Universe doesn't make mistakes
It was the month of August 2020,One fine day after coming back from office My father and mother called me to their room at around 10pm showing me a picture of a guy .. actually a selfie of a guy in green checks t-shirt.
This was s guy to whose family my father is about to visit in the near future ..for my marriage proposal.
My father asked me to look about him on Facebook... Facebook has actually became a platform to get some Information about guys ..haha lol
On 6th of september, around 10pm he pinged me on Instagram.
Jay: khamaghani hukam (In Rajputs they use it as a synonym for Namaste)
Meira: khamaghani sa
Jay: How is you ?
Meira:M good n u ?
Jay: Actually I was searching for you on social media from last ten days but couldn't
Meira: ok, actually I am active on social media but recently I have deactivated my facebook account.I am too active on Instagram.you seems to be very less active on either fb or Instagram.
Jay:yes I am not much engaged on it.
In this way ..this conversation led to the discussion of many things.
She put her heart out before him ..they didn't filter any of the topics.
Her heart already knew he is the guy you looking for but she was not ready to accept.
He was always doing rounds in her mind but she tried to immerse herself in her master's exams so that her mother won't ask her about him.
Her parents knew that she is talking to jay.so,her mom asked her friend Pooja to know Meira's thoughts on jay.
Whenever she talked to her mom she always discuss jay.so she knew that Meira has started liking him but she needed a kind of confirmation.so Pooja has to come into the picture.
Hahhaaha ..
Corona phase
It was the second wave of this deadly virus which had got the world to a halt.
Every other person was getting infected with it and had to isolate himself/herself.
Delhi was said to be highly infected and he was working there.so it was a situation which seems like staying in the water body full of sharks and couldn't be attacked by a shark.
On 6th of December he had some competitive exam and was allocated a centre in jodhpur.
He also had a plan to meet his college friends after long time.
Before this in the first week of December he noticed corona symptoms so he got his test done and left for jodhpur.
Jodhpur which is his hometown..he stayed away from his family..kept himself quarantined until 6th and on 6th evening he left for Delhi again.
11th morning was the day when he got his reports and it tested positive.
He was least bothered as this was the second time he was detected with coronavirus.
This news shakes her to the heel and she was afraid to loose him.She cried and expressed her love for him.
He could hear "I love you"for the very first time from her.They both knew that they are madly in love with each other but couldn't express.
Even though he could express it through emojis.
But she holded it very tightly.lol(laughing out laudly)
Finally it has to come out.
"Time to express love is now"
Forever to be each other
And the day has come when they are going to be husband and wife.
On 2nd may they got married even though the corona fear was looming around.
Every day was new announcement by the concerned authorities about the movement of the people, marriage celebrations or any sort of gathering.
But all these didn't stop their loved ones to gather and celebrate their bond.
I believe marriage is not just a two to four days fancy affair..i.e celebration..but the real marriage starts after this celebration.
Marriage is all about living together with a person with different perspectives, different habits, thinking and what not.
It's all about walking holding each other's hand, taking all the old and new relationships together without hurting any of them.
There might be many moments along the path ..which make you fall in love with each other every day.
It was the corona phase so it acted as a blessing for jay and Meira ..as it gave them time to be together.
It was the much needed time as talking on phone is not same as staying together.
Staying together gives you glimpses of different sides of each other.
And just like that six months passed and their first trip to Manali materialized.
Communication and the key
Is it only my responsibility??
He can atleast make a call and enquire about the day ?
Why the Indian society have this rule that in the third trimester girl need to stay with her parents.
I know this is very critical time and being in your own house with your family..provides you with comfortable environment..you can stay the way you want,wear comfortable clothes instead of those decided by the society.
Why the hell societies have restrictions or I must say a dress code for women to save their culture as if this burden of saving their so called culture is on the shoulders of women instead of men.
Men who can wear what they want ..stay the same but for women everything changes after marriage.
I think that's the reason a large percentage of women prefers to stay alone in today's era.
This third trimester is the phase when husband and wife should be staying together..so that he can also experience the same as wife afterall it's a life time moment for him as well.
Jay is least bothered to make a call...he is becoming die hard workaholic.
Why Boys don't understand that a call can make or break her day.
While going through NST test ..Many thoughts were making round in my mind.
But she was keeping herself calm because she was very angry on jay.Now a days he is so immersed in his office work that he forgets to check on Meira.
This irritates her and ofcourse this is the phase when she needs atleast a proper call from him along with his work.
As soon as all the check ups were done while taking medicines from pharmacy..she couldn't control her emotions so she called him and instead of listening to him ..she bursted out her anger ..it was partially though and cut the call.
He calls again after five minutes..but she was in no mood to respond to his queries about the doctor's visit.
And then after lunch she calls him and he was talking very normal as if nothing has happened and even before going to bed they had their routine call.
Oh god!!
He don't even know that I was angry whole day because we were not able to talk properly.
They say "Communication is the key " in every relationship.
Ofcourse it's true,as soon as I talked to him all random thoughts went away.
Wife keep on being angry and Husband don't even realise that there is some change in her mood.
Woww ..what a husband breed is made up of ?
Waiting days
All seems to be waiting eagerly for kukriya's arrival.
His/her paternal as well as maternal grand parents and Each and every other family member.
His mama's (maternal uncles) are much more excited.
They have started looking for different toys and jhulas ...before his/her arrival.
Seeing their excitement I was wondering were they ever gets excited whenever I arrived home from my in-laws place after wedding.
And the excitement of Jay is no less than others ..his eyes sparks when he talks about kukriya.
In today's tech era, whatsapp and other mode of video calling has made life easier... reducing distance.
When we accept people as they are ..then only we can be happy..happier and happiest.
And my niece ..Himanshi is no less in this excitement phase.when whole family is involved in it how anyone stay aloof of it.
It's true how the wait for the arrival of new member in to the family..may be in the form of any kukriya or marriage.
As weddings also lets us to have new member in to the family...either in the form of
Daughter-in law or son-in -law of the family .
I sometimes wonder our lives would have been barren like desert if their were no festivals or any sort of celebrations.
"Everything in life is an omen"
Que sera sera
While watching "Accidental prime minister" movie which is based on a book written by Mr.Sanjay Baru.
It may be a considered a slow movie but I liked the story.
In this movie I came across a line Que Sera Sera which means Whatever will be,will be .
It caught my attention and this line stands true for all of us ,instead of worrying about the future we must leave it to the universal energy and it will happen the way it has to.
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