Emotional Intimacy >>Physical Intimacy

Recently I came across one of the posts of my fellow bloggers...in which she has mentioned about Emotional Intimacy..and after reading it this word was doing rounds in my mind.

But What exactly Emotional Intimacy is  ??

Seriously saying I didn't knew about it ...we all may be going through this phase in our life or have gone through this ...but untill I read about it and gone through it ...I might never knew that how important is Emotional intimacy than physical intimacy.

According to my understanding..it is a phase in your life ..where you are naked of all emotions..I mean ...you have nothing hidden inside you ...you and your partner/husband becomes so transparent with each other ... sharing each and every phase ..part .. experience... whether it's good experience or bad experience..is being shared with each other.

That's when I can say .. emotional intimacy had been achieved..may be to some extent..or may be fully.

It's means your level of relationship has been matured level.

And when you are in this phase or have achieved it ...you guys becomes best friends ... sharing everything..having no burden inside you.

There is no scope of judgement...you both don't judge each other on your past experiences...like best friends.

And if there is anything..he/she will be the first person to explode everything.. whatever is going on within us.

Emotional intimacy is much more than physical intimacy.

There will no scope for any insecurities

And emotions can be shared freely with out any second thought.

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Being a Housewife is a Full time job !!

While scrolling through the Instagram I got across a clip of bbc ..on how a couple named Priyanka and Praveen decided to take some major decisions to raise their son Ojas.

Both of them were working but then they decided that till 6month of their baby boy Priyanka will stay at home to feed him and take care of him.As soon as he starts taking the upper food...other than mother's milk ..she will resume her work and Praveen will be leaving his job to take care of their son and house.

I was like wowww..he wanted to experience parenthood..so he quit job..and realised the importance of his mother's work.

See when I saw this ..I was like woww ..he left his job n all ..Indeed it's a good example for the society..new change to be seen ...a good change.

But when a women leaves her job after becoming mother ...is she appreciated by the society in the same way ?

It's considered that it's her job to give first priority to her family.

Being a Housewife is not at all an easy job...

Yes it's a full time job ..and I think each one of us who are house wives never ever shy away of telling they are so ..when asked ..what does she do ??

She must mention ..a proud HOUSE WIFE in her bio ...her introduction.

It's no less than any other work ..office or any business..etc

Once while having a conversation with my husband I was like yar being a Housewife is not valued in outside world .. I am nothing in the eyes of the world..he said .. it's a big lie.. myth that house wives are nothing...but they are much much more than any other person who is working to earn income ...House wives are the biggest support system for their family..doing multi tasking ...building their kids future ...they are the spinal cord of their husbands.. families.

You must never ever feel guilty or lesser than any other working women..you must be proud of being so if you have quit your job for your family.

Being a Housewife must be a choice ..it must be ones choice to do job or being a stay at home mom. 

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Why Marriage Seems to be Scary But yet Beautiful ?

Marriage ..is an auspicious occasion...and every parent after their kids crosses 23+ ..or placed anywhere/started working..starts to take up this topic very often while discussions.

But 

Girls /boys are taking much time to think upon it ...before getting into any commitment...committed relationship like marriage.

Marriage is Scary for girls ..but why so ?

Marriage is beautiful when you get a loving life partner...a friend in husband...then it seems to be a fairytale...u would be enjoying every bit of it.

But .. but it takes a lot of thinking..time to make up mind to get into this sacred relationship.

Even I was one among them who was always scared ... irritated of this word.

I used to convince my parents..that I will stay with you ..will take care of you ..for whole life ...there is no difference between son and daughter.

You won't believe I have tried my best to convince them ...show all the points why I shouldn't get married..until and unless I met him and was able to see another angle ..or one can say ..other beautiful side of being in a relationship.

Initially,Why are we not able to say yes to marriage??

We girls always tend to fear ..to loose our freedom..right to take decisions regarding our life (as our parents has always allowed/encouraged us to do )

Change in the life style... dressing style ...formal behaviour and many others ..which can be experienced by only those are married.. because marriage is not a one day affair...real marriage started after that glittery.. celebration...of few days...Sangeet n all..other things.

When you are staying with your in law's ..u have certain Code of Conducts ..which daughter in law is supposed to follow.

Frankly speaking..I don't think any of married women like would love to follow them.

Being married in a traditional Rajasthani.. Rajput Family...I have seen vast changes in my life style..to thinking or disagreeing skills ..haha ...lol 

After Marriage. ..What were the changes 

-Change in dressing style.. wearing rajputi dresses...which I always hated before marriage...but slowly started liking it.

-YOu can't speak out your heart.

-Formal way of behaving.

-Sometimes saying No may offend them.

-lot many unsaid things.

May be we don't want any changes in our life..a kind of environmet/perspective..for which we have made lot of efforts to build.

All my notions regarding marriage was dismantled ...after I met him ...a friend for life but stilla we have our own share of issues ...when we have to stay away ..he for his job and me for my job along with my in law's.

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Maandvi and Urmila

Today I just thought of going through one of the videos of kunar vishwas...I had heard that he has started doing Ram Katha's.

I knew he is a good orator..heard from one of my friend that his Katha's are really good.

While listening to him ...when he was talking about Maandvi,wife of Bharat  Sri Ram's brother...tears started rolling over my cheeks.

I had the thaught in my mind ...How that lady might have stayed without her husband..with her.

No no Bharat has not gone for Vanwas along with Ram but it Laxman who had gone along with Sita and Ram.

Then ?

Why Maandvi and Bharat were not together?

Bharat has decided to stay in one of the Hut outside Ayodhya ...the way his beloved brother Ram was staying in Jungal ..devoid of all the Rajmahal/palace Facilities.

But,in all of this ...Brotherhood ...what was the mistake of Maandvi and Urmila( Laxman's wife)?

How they might have stayed without their husbands for fourteen years??

I am just putting my thoughts on their inner situations...it's a fact that they would have been getting all the palace ..Raj Mahal facilities..but is it enough??

What is more important??

 All the amenities or the company of your partner??

To be Frank 

Here,we can't stay for a day without our husband at in law's place ...how did they might have managed ?

I am just trying to understand their Dil ka haal ...as a women.

It's really really very tough.

It's not that in glorifying that it's the duty of wives to serve the In laws ...like maandvi was asked to take care of all the three mother in law's..Her inner feelings were somewhere not shown..or ignored ..I don't what will be the right word for it.

And you all might have heard about Rukmani ...wife of Sri Krishna.

When we think of Krishna ...we hear Radha as well ...Radhe Radhe ...Radha Krishna....the what about Rukmani...?

Rukmani's heart might not have pained ??

She also loved Krishna with whole heart..them why we remember or take her name very rarely.

Why all our religious texts ...ignored her character?

It's just that these thoughts popped in my mind and wrote it here...to get some answers...to clear this from my mind.

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