Both of them were working but then they decided that till 6month of their baby boy Priyanka will stay at home to feed him and take care of him.As soon as he starts taking the upper food...other than mother's milk ..she will resume her work and Praveen will be leaving his job to take care of their son and house.
I was like wowww..he wanted to experience parenthood..so he quit job..and realised the importance of his mother's work.
See when I saw this ..I was like woww ..he left his job n all ..Indeed it's a good example for the society..new change to be seen ...a good change.
But when a women leaves her job after becoming mother ...is she appreciated by the society in the same way ?
It's considered that it's her job to give first priority to her family.
Being a Housewife is not at all an easy job...
Yes it's a full time job ..and I think each one of us who are house wives never ever shy away of telling they are so ..when asked ..what does she do ??
She must mention ..a proud HOUSE WIFE in her bio ...her introduction.
It's no less than any other work ..office or any business..etc
Once while having a conversation with my husband I was like yar being a Housewife is not valued in outside world .. I am nothing in the eyes of the world..he said .. it's a big lie.. myth that house wives are nothing...but they are much much more than any other person who is working to earn income ...House wives are the biggest support system for their family..doing multi tasking ...building their kids future ...they are the spinal cord of their husbands.. families.
You must never ever feel guilty or lesser than any other working women..you must be proud of being so if you have quit your job for your family.
Being a Housewife must be a choice ..it must be ones choice to do job or being a stay at home mom.
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Very true Sonu! Why should every woman be asked to be a homemaker? A man can be equally responsible for taking care of the home. Men who have stayed in hostels appreciate that house work is a full time job too.
ReplyDeleteYou have raised some great points Sonu. I have seen my Mom as a housewife and I know how difficult is the task. Taking care of your home, in laws, husband and children 24x7 is not only difficult but also tiresome. So, we should respect all the housewives who actually sacrifices their career for 24x7 house jobs.
ReplyDeleteTrue it should be one's own decision whether to be a home maker or to work professionally. Issue is when women sacrifice their jobs because of lack of support. That points to the imbalances that take women away from the labour force.
ReplyDeleteI so agree with it. And so glad that you have chosen to write about this. I am a housewife too. We have a ot on our plate to check upon. The house chores, the food, the requirements of all, families health.
ReplyDeleteWhen a man quit his job or do anything else which we do he got tuns of appreciation but a woman - it is her responsibility. It will take time to change the society. I hope it can start with our home first. Not all husband appreciate housewife.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree. When a man leaves his job to look after the child or even takes leaves, it is celebrated. On the other side, a woman is expected to. Being a housewife is a full time but thankless job.
ReplyDeleteNice post Sonu, quite thought provoking too! Being a housewife for a long time now, I have encountered all kinds of comments from all types of people. Once I got so frustrated that I wrote a poem to shut some mouths... hahaha! Very few people actually express appreciation... Kaveri.
ReplyDeleteWow, this story about Priyanka and Praveen is really inspiring! It's amazing to see them making such big decisions for their son Ojas. I love how they're challenging traditional roles and showing that parenthood is a shared responsibility. Society is slowly changing, and it's great to see examples like this leading the way. It's true, being a housewife is a tough job and definitely deserves more recognition. Everyone should be proud of their choices, whether they work outside the home or stay to take care of their family. It's all about what feels right for each person and their situation. We need to work what is best for our family, not what society wants.
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To each its own, I will say. If as a mother, i wish to work along with supporting and raising my baby. that should be totally my decision after all the pros and cons. In India though, mom guilt is always thrown upon us, that we left a lil child and have gotten back to work etc. If there is understanding between you and partner considering all aspects including financial and emotional, you could do as you please and still be the best mom to your child.
ReplyDeleteIt's ones choice.. irrespective of gender... but women don't get appreciated for doing such things... I'm glad things are changing though... and hope more people understand that one's worth does not have to be measured in monetary terms like how much are they earning and how they're contributing financially
ReplyDeleteEveryone says that being a housewife is tough; a full-time job. And yet, when you tell people you're a homemaker, they don't look at you with respect. This includes women too. A few years spent on caring for your child is considered break (wasted) in your resume. The society is hypocritic, at least when it comes to this issue.
ReplyDeleteBeing a housewife is so underrated and underappreciated. Forget about others, sometimes even by the family. The society and its expectations from women never cease to amaze me. We need to be proud of what we do for our family and make aure they don't take us for granted.
ReplyDeleteHands down.. one of the toughest and gruesome jobs ever. The lack of appreciation and acknowledgement is disheartening.
ReplyDeleteRaised by a proud homemaker, I completely acknowledge the struggle. I think my only takeaway from this is to respect someone who's taking this up and be a helping hand at least.
ReplyDeleteIf a man gets appreciated for leaving job to take care of family then the woman who does the same deserves the same round of appreciation... aren't we talking about women empowerment these days. Now coming to the housewife concept, each one of us are housewives irrespective of the fact we are working or not. I dont find any difference between a stay at home mom and a working woman when it comes to responsibility towards family, love for family and care for family. It's definitely a woman's choice to decide what she wants. But I personally can't disagree that the life of housewives in our childhood days were far more tougher than the homemakers of today. They used to do A to Z work for the family and still took time out to teach their kids. Now we have maids to do house-core work, dishwashers to wash the utensils, washing machines to wash the clothes and few of the homemakers even cook and strangely in spite of being educated they send the child to tuitions in the primary standards. There are many working women who still cook before they leave and give time to kids nurturing when they are back. Not denying the fact, still many of the homemakers cook for the family but the numbers are falling. Maternity leaves are there to take a break and even unpaid leaves for nurturing the young born kids and even till 18 years of child age, covering 2 years leaves are granted to parents as child care leave then why it turns so difficult to manage. If one is having plenty of assets from the family and one of the partners is early so heftily that the other can stay at home ( either husband/or wife) then it's good to go. But my observation is until and unless both parents together earn well, managing higher studies for the next generation stands difficult and there is need to work for both. Options are available in plenty to work from home and either the father or the mother can pursue that and still earn well. I am not underestimating homemakers but not even giving more appreciation than working mothers. Both women are at par when it comes to loving their family, their kids, and showing their responsibility towards them.
ReplyDeleteI believe it's crucial for individuals to make their own choices about whether to work outside the home or focus on family, without feeling guilty or judged by society. Every person's situation is unique, and what matters most is that they're doing what's best for themselves and their loved ones.
ReplyDeleteThough the situation or stand that each parent takes for a child may differ it is always important to appreciate both the father and mother. Women are not just housewives.
ReplyDeleteMan get appreciate for being at home to take care of house and women doing it from the ages then it is her work. You are right Sonu. Why only women need to do it. But I don't know when society going to accept this?
ReplyDeleteIt is fantastic to read this dear. Working is also hard. Making the house home is the most difficult job in the world. It is a personal preference. And the preference of women must be valued and respected in society.
ReplyDeleteWhy do we even call just a housewife.. It's not 'just', it's much much more than you can even think of.. Again it's a choice that everyone women should have a right to make.
ReplyDeleteYou've made some excellent points, Sonu. I've been a homemaker in a joint family, then nuclear, and understand the challenges involved. Managing household duties, caring for in-laws, a husband, and children around the clock is not only tough but also exhausting.I started working at 40 and I have seen both sides of the coin.I appreciate and respect all homemakers who dedicate themselves to this full-time role, often sacrificing their careers.
ReplyDeleteA few years ago, I ran into a lady in our neighborhood and when she asked me if I am working, I said no I am just a housewife and she replied back that why are you staying at home, you should find a job as it's still not too late. I couldn't reply back to her that it's my choice to stay at home & take care of my kid and I don't want go out for a 9 to 6 job. But it made me wonder why I couldn't reply to her then. What was it that made her judge me? And I realized it was because of how I answered her, calling myself 'just' a housewife, my tone was submissive and my posture was underconfident. That day, I decided to change how I saw myself. After that day, there have been many times when people asked me What I do? And I have always confidently answered them that I'm a housewife and stay at home mom. And not even once I got questioned why I was not working outside. So, I guess a lot also depends on how we look at ourselves.
ReplyDeletewell-said! Being a house wise is something to be proud of - you all do a crazy ton of things every day, that others cannot handle even for 3 continuous days!
ReplyDeleteTruly agree with all your points and questions raised. I turned out to be a full time homemaker from last six years. It was completely unacceptable for me as working woman but priorities changed and so my opinion. Now I enjoy becoming a homemaker though it is tireless and timeless job.
ReplyDeleteA housewife indeed has a lot on her plate! I agree that the decision to be a housewife should be taken personally and not forced on anyone.
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