Why Marriage Seems to be Scary But yet Beautiful ?

Marriage ..is an auspicious occasion...and every parent after their kids crosses 23+ ..or placed anywhere/started working..starts to take up this topic very often while discussions.

But 

Girls /boys are taking much time to think upon it ...before getting into any commitment...committed relationship like marriage.

Marriage is Scary for girls ..but why so ?

Marriage is beautiful when you get a loving life partner...a friend in husband...then it seems to be a fairytale...u would be enjoying every bit of it.

But .. but it takes a lot of thinking..time to make up mind to get into this sacred relationship.

Even I was one among them who was always scared ... irritated of this word.

I used to convince my parents..that I will stay with you ..will take care of you ..for whole life ...there is no difference between son and daughter.

You won't believe I have tried my best to convince them ...show all the points why I shouldn't get married..until and unless I met him and was able to see another angle ..or one can say ..other beautiful side of being in a relationship.

Initially,Why are we not able to say yes to marriage??

We girls always tend to fear ..to loose our freedom..right to take decisions regarding our life (as our parents has always allowed/encouraged us to do )

Change in the life style... dressing style ...formal behaviour and many others ..which can be experienced by only those are married.. because marriage is not a one day affair...real marriage started after that glittery.. celebration...of few days...Sangeet n all..other things.

When you are staying with your in law's ..u have certain Code of Conducts ..which daughter in law is supposed to follow.

Frankly speaking..I don't think any of married women like would love to follow them.

Being married in a traditional Rajasthani.. Rajput Family...I have seen vast changes in my life style..to thinking or disagreeing skills ..haha ...lol 

After Marriage. ..What were the changes 

-Change in dressing style.. wearing rajputi dresses...which I always hated before marriage...but slowly started liking it.

-YOu can't speak out your heart.

-Formal way of behaving.

-Sometimes saying No may offend them.

-lot many unsaid things.

May be we don't want any changes in our life..a kind of environmet/perspective..for which we have made lot of efforts to build.

All my notions regarding marriage was dismantled ...after I met him ...a friend for life but stilla we have our own share of issues ...when we have to stay away ..he for his job and me for my job along with my in law's.

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