Samiksha was in Bangalore for her first Trimester and after that she came to her in law's place ..stayed their for a week and trust me it was the hardest week of her life ...crying crying ..no sleep ..as she wanted dhruv.. she went with Dhruv to Delhi after that ..as he took her with him seeing her condition .....and was staying from past two months.
After staying for two months she was feeling home sick ...and he was about to visit his parents but she didnt wanted to go to her In Law's place and instead booked tickets for her place..i.e Bangalore.
On the day of leaving ..i.e on 1st of March ...her flight was around 11:20 am.
As soon as she booked her tickets on 29th Feb ..she couldn't stop crying ...
You all might be like why was she crying??
She must be happy as she was about to leave for her own place.
But she was not happy
Why so ??
As She just wanted to stay with Dhruv ..live and feel every moment of their pregnancy phase with him..whom she loved immensely..who was her life and vice versa.
In the evening as he was back from office..they both were very emotional and till next morning this time they couldn't decide whether to leave for her own place or in law's place ??
On the day of 1st March ...From 3:40am she couldn't sleep...and she was unable to decided whether to leave or not ?
She was facing the battle ...a war between her heart and mind.
This was the first time that they were not able to decided anything...she was just blank till 8am ..the time when she had to leave for the airport.
The last night they even tried to find out how to cancel the flight ticket and respective airlines refund policy.
In the morning twice or thrice they thought of cancelling but didn't do .
Finally,by 8:10am she cancelled it and didn't go to Bangalore and Instead decided to visit her in law's place along with him.
She was unable to understand what was happening and why she was not able to take one step.
What was this tug of war ?
Why this happened?
What was happening to her ?
Why she don't want to go to her home where she can her own time ...mental peace.
Is she the only one who came across such a situation?
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The tug of war between mind and heart is so gruesome and tiring. I think we all go through it at some point, for somethings.
ReplyDeleteEspecially during pregnancy where your hormones are heightened and you are unable to comprehend.
Samiksha is not the only one who had to face this war between the heart and the mind Sonu... we all do... sometimes for small decisions, sometimes for very big. I can totally relate to her situation but if I were in her place I wouldv chosen to go to my own home rather than my in-laws as it is also a matter of the well being of the child in my tummy. I wouldv had a very stressful and horrible 2nd and 3rd semester at my in laws... but again we are different n react differently to situations. To each his own🙂
ReplyDeleteSamiksha is definitely not the only one who came across such a situation. The struggle between wanting independence and craving companionship is so real especially when you are pregnant and in-laws are in the picture. When you are pregnant, your hormones and emotions are all over the place but this is the time when the partner has to step up and become the guiding light, taking away their partner's confusion and calming down the turmoil. I don't know the background of Dhruv and why does he had to go to his parents house but he should have chosen to stay with her wherever she was comfortable. She shouldn't have to go through such a tug of war between her heart and mind.
ReplyDeleteSonu, this is the eternal battle and I think many a time we are ruled by our hearts and by our impulses. If only we would always listen to our brains then maybe the world would be a better place.
ReplyDeleteI live a tug of war all the time, my heart wants peace and my mind wants more practical things, so I can relate to Samiksha's thought process. But sometimes, giving way to your partner's needs makes the heart feel better.
ReplyDeleteCan understand the conflict in her mind - wanting to be with the husband and also with her parents. In my first pregnancy I stayed the last month with my parents and my husband would visit me.
ReplyDeleteSamiksha's struggle is relatable to many who have faced similar dilemmas, where the heart and mind pull in opposite directions, making it difficult to make a clear decision. In such moments, it's essential to acknowledge and understand the underlying emotions, communicate openly with loved ones, and trust one's instincts to navigate through the uncertainty.
ReplyDeleteWow, this story really touched my heart. It's so beautifully written and captures the emotional turmoil Samiksha is going through during such a crucial time in her life. The struggle between her heart and mind is something many of us can relate to, especially when it comes to making decisions that involve our loved ones.
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Decision making is always very difficult and crucial too. I think all of us face this everytime we have to decide on something. Listen to your mind or heart but again some situation expects you to think emotionally while sone need practical approach.
ReplyDeleteThis tug of war is most common with everyone. We goes through this many times. And we ended up by choosing what our heart says and not the brain. The same happened with Samiksha. She choose herat over brain.
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like Samiksha was going through a very emotional and challenging time during her pregnancy. It's understandable that she felt torn between wanting to be with Dhruv, whom she loves deeply, and feeling the pull of her own home and family. Pregnancy brings about a mix of emotions, and making decisions about where to stay and who to be with during such a crucial time can be incredibly tough. I understand the struggle of feeling torn between wanting to be with loved ones and seeking comfort in familiar surroundings.
ReplyDeleteWe all have this tug of war between the heart and mind. The heart wants something but the mind wants us to be more practical. Best to weigh in all the options before making a decision.
ReplyDeleteHey dear, I can relate to it and once I experienced the same in my life and after that I swear on god that let it be anywhere my parents or In laws place I will not stay without him. It was not pregnancy in my case but some function in the family where he need to go back for a week or so for some official work before coming back to me. Oh Gosh! I only know what went through on me and I was just half mad.... the day he came back to in laws place to take me, I was in heaven. I cried a lot hugging him ofcourse behind the close door and promised never to stay without him at any of the place. For Samiksha it may be the pregnancy time for me it was some other... but this tug of war between mind and heart is a common affair in every woman's life......
ReplyDeleteI feel life is forever a tug of war between the head and the heart. My heart tells me to run for my life but my brain reminds me of my responsibilities towards my family.
ReplyDeleteIt's a battle that's been there for time immemorial. It seriously is tough. But I think when it comes to happiness it's better to decide what makes us happy. Brain or heart doesn't matter
ReplyDeleteAt this point I am having a war that I am a creative or not this is never never-ending situation. 🙄 mind n heart why why
ReplyDeletea war between the heart and mind is something we all face. she probably needs to seek within why she is feeling like this and where it is coming from so she can embrace the feeling and not be in such a continuous struggle.
ReplyDeleteIn life, we all face such war between heart and mind and sometimes we feel so blank to decide what to do. Very nice and practical read for sure.
ReplyDeleteThis story is relatable to many in pregnancy. Even I suffered the turmoil of tug of war between heart and mind where despite lot of conflicts only heart wins.
ReplyDeleteLove does indeed make these kind of decisions very difficult to make in an objective manner.
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