Marriage👩‍❤️‍👨

On the other day i just sat ..and saw a post of one of my relative on Instagram..she got married recently on 26th Jan.

See ..inspite of being so busy ..kept all of us updated through her insta stories.

I was surprised..she could upload stories ..as in Indian weddings .. especially rajasthani weddings ..bride won't get time only ..many rituals ..n many other things..which may not let us to check insta ...or any of our social media accounts.

Seeing her stories ..a thought popped up in my mind.

what is marriage??

Is it wearing dulhan lehanga...or poshak .. jewellery..all taam jhaam..of wedding..or something..much much more than that.

It's a seven lives sacred relationship.

Real marriage starts after 1 or 2 months of wedding..when you really start living with each other ...that attraction period starts to decline..

After a little bit of experience what I could i understand from the word marriage is ..

Pampering 

Dealing with each other mood swings

Living with the person whose habits ..few of them may not be liked by u and vice versa..

Holding onto each other after ups and downs of life.

Loving each other the way u loved at very first sight in whatever condition you are ..even when you are in messy hair ..all messed up 

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Many more ..

Many thoghts were running in to my mind ..when i planned to write on this..but ..now ..

Finding difficulty to recollect everything..

I can just say that ..

It's much much more than the ceremony of marriage..true marriage starts after you start living together.. it's  much more ...

Success!!

Success ??

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What do we get in mind as soon as we hear this word?

Is success getting first rank .. always??

Is success .. getting full score in either in maths/science?

Is success..is to top the school/college/university?

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Then what success is ??

I have always wondered about this word ..ran behind it to a great extent ..my mom knows how much i have irritated her .. whenever u lost in my Mysore SSB ,my attempts at UPSC..n at many levels .i always defined my potential.. whether i am successful or not based on my friends jobs.

My mom always tried to explain me the definition of success but it was all in vain..i never understood.

But 

I was always happy with what I was doing .. teaching..which was my passion and it will always be.

I always tend to forget every other thing else when i am teaching..i always feel happy n satisfactory ...no regrets that i didn't get in to services..i am happy and content..doing what i love the most.

Recently came across two of my colleagues..whose Daughter's study in the same classes..one is asking her daughter to pass in all the subjects and enjoy childhood...which she may loose in this illusionary world ..of hell of competition..her mother believes that if she have talent ..she will survive..she will do something or the other in her life..and the other keeps on imbibing in her daughter's mind that if you get full score/top on exams then you are successful.

I just sat and wondered again and my mind went on to wander again about the word success..

I tried to bring it back ..to my belief ..which my always made me to believe that "success is doing what u happy... forgetting to check your phone 😉.. enjoying what you do is success "

Rituals!!

Recently lost grand father of my husband..my husband was much closer to him.

When he informed me about it as i was at my mother's place ..i couldn't know what to say him ..how to console him.. sometimes we fall short of words at some situations.

I was in the same situation.

And after marriage i had the chance to attend ..pagri ki raat and other rituals (on 12th day )after demise.

I could see all these from near ..this time..few of the rituals which are carried for 12days ..they made my heart to cry .. दिल को दहलाने का काम किया ..we loose that particular person but rituals carrier out further put us in some vigorous situations.

In our community,ladies keep on crying(acting of crying.. shouting laudly).i have seen those who don't even know the person who is being lost.

Then on 12th day ..all the relatives from different places ..come together and cry all at a time ..

These rituals made me to think ..what is the condition of that person who is either wife/husband/daughter/son of the deceased person.

I don't know why am i writing this ?? I don't even know what to say ?? No words ..i am unable to tell my mind ..purpose/logic behind these rituals??