Life without festivals

Recently a question popped up in my mind about the importance of festivals ..

Are they really important in life ?

If yes 

Why so ?

How would be life without festivals?

If there is no festival in our life what will happen?

Why these festival has been brought into our lives and so on.,..

But ,after analysing for much time and I could understand they are really very important in our lives .

If there is no celebration then our life will be boring...no excitement.

Some of us may loose interest in routine life.

We may go into depression..yes you heard it right ..

So, our ancestors....very old ancestors I can say .... centuries ago ..came up with the concept of celebration of small small things in life ... giving them form of festivals.

If you observe carefully our calendar...you might come to know how we are kept engaged in them one after the other.

Navratri...Dussehra... Diwali .. Sankranti..Holi....and many others ..

There are different festivals.. different ways to celebrate them in different regions.

When I went for my AFCAT's Mysore SSB..in one of the activity..a kind of testing you was through extempo..then I got the topic of Importance of festivals...I really don't know what I would have spoke then on the same topic back then in 2016..

But as you age ...you understand the importance...deep concept...reasons behind the celebration of many things ..to which you considered a mere celebration earlier.

It was the practice to bring the family together...family get together..

Even though earlier people stayed in joint families...lived near by.

But ,in this era where each one of us are settled in different cities.. countries in search of better opportunities...for education.

These festivals brings loved ones together..for few days..but still they come closer and get a chance to take a break from our busier schedules.

Seriously,life would have been barren without these festivals.

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Aversions

Why sometimes we don't feel any affinity towards someone ?

You don't even feel like hearing them..seems to be  frustrated when they are around .

Some actions of some people creates such an impression on your heart and mind ..on the whole soul...that you get frustrated of them being around ..hearing them.

But can't say anything as you respect that relationship or may be you don't want to spoil the relationships.

But,in all of these

 Are we not troubling ourselves?

Are we not hurting ourselves?

Crying ?

Disturbing our mental health?

Instead of knowing everything we tend to do it repeatedly.

Someplaces and some people can never be good for body and mind.

What to be done ??

How to keep yourself protected from such irritating feelings??

Frustrated feelings?

When they are the people with whom you have to live  and see them very often ..??

Why this happens??

Why our mind and body tend to get offended by someone's actions ?

Life of a woman !!

People who read my every post might have atleast thought once that I have an obsession with exclamatory marks !!

I don't know ...but out of all English Symbols I like it a bit more from the time Venkatramana ma'am thought us in school.

Yes

So today ..what have I observed around me?

Life of woman..after a certain time she becomes purpose less ...isn't it?

Does this happens with female figure of our society or male as well goes through this ?

I have no idea ...about it

May be yes

Being a female .. I could just feel connected more with female's life .

A boy named kanishk and girl named kudrat were born to Revanth and Priya .

Revanth worked in an IT firm and Priya who was also employed in an IT sector were proud parents of two kids ...they had a perfect family.

Kids sent to school..Priya had actually discontinued her job after her first born.she dedicated her whole life to kids and her husband.

She never had time to make friends...go for parties. ..even she reduced her vacation to her parents home .

During summer break as well she was busy in enrolling her kids to various classes and took them to their paternal grandparents.

Slowly kids went to colleges,graduated and her daughter went on to do MS from US and son got placed in an MNC in Bangalore.

She and her husband settled down in the same city from where they had started their life.

They married their kids and was free of all the responsibilities.

Her life always revolved around her husband and her kids.

Her husband left her soon and she was left  alone for herself.

She barely had any work ..she became purpose less in her life ...she started getting thoughts what is the purpose of her life and what she did for herself?

She never did anything which she liked ... always moved on the whims and wishes of her husband and kids.

She went on to stay with her daughter in US and her son in Bangalore..kids has become busy in their respective lives...If any one says anything it made her feel so much.

She starts loosing interest in her life...she becomes purpose less in life.

New year 2024 !

As soon as I woke up phone was buzzing with WhatsApp messages..."Happy New Year"

"Welcome 2024"

"Jay shree Ram Happy New year".....and so many other lines....

If you look around every one ...every member of the house will be glued to their respective phones.

They are busy in wishing back and forwarding to their friends and others.

I was not aloof of it ...I was one of them ... suddenly I realised...

How an ideal new year celebration should be ??

Is this going out and partying with your friends?

Leaving parents ..who don't come from cool gen Z ...or who loves to party ??

All these questions were going on in my mind.

I was lost in a thought what will be the ideal way of celebration?

Can we keep calm at home ... sitting, relaxing, watching a movie with our family... throwing out phones aside to which we are so glued that we forget who is around us and all.

Aren't we so addicted to our phone ? Or we not so controlled by this device that we tend to forget or don't like our offline relationships...become dedicated to virtual relationship.

Sending virtual hugs and kisses instead of sitting calmly with family and loved ones ... rewinding our past year ... cherishing lessons and gifts of the going year.

Spending time with our family can be most valued... happiest kind of new year celebration 🎊

Wishing everyone Happy and Healthy New Year 2024 

दुविधा

जाना भी चाहु

पर तुझसे दुर भी न रह पाऊं

कैसी दुविधा हैं यह

वहा रह कर भी

तुझको ही देखना चाहु

कैसी दुविधा हैं यह

होती हूं पास तेरे तो

वहा जाना चाहु

आखिरकार घर हैं मेरा

जहा पली बढ़ी हूं में

पर लगता हैं मेरा कोई घर नहीं

न मैं यहां की हो पाऊं

न वहा की हो पाऊं

समझ नही आता

चाहता क्या हैं यह मन

लगता हैं

आजकल की

मेरा घर अब और कही नहीं

बस तुझमें ही हैं

कैसी यह दुविधा हैं

जो मन को घेरे हुए हैं

क्या सबके साथ ऐसे ही होता हैं??

Have you ever taken Langar ?

Last Sunday we were on a famous mission ...on which most of us are now a days ..."Diwali ki Safai" and as soon as I was done preparing lunch ..our gas cylinder was over ..I was glad lunch was prepared for both of us.

Husband was given the task to clean the kitchen.. washing floor n all...n I was doing room n clothes..

We were very tired and thought of Zomato for dinner.

But suddenly while taking bath he got an idea why not visit Bangla Sahib Gurudwara and have dinner in Cannaught place.

From a very long time it was on our bucket list..to visit Bangla Sahib Ji gurudwara.

We got ready and went there ..we both felt peaceful ...from within..sat for half an hour near kund.

We just had a discussion about langar ..what a great act by community.

Who and when langar was started n all was going on in our discussion.

Then we thought why not us experience this langar..in Bangla Sahib.

We went for it ...

Seriously..I was overwhelmed seeing people serving .. cleaning plated ..serving food.

On that day in langar ..we had the chance to taste the yummy kheer,Dal and roti.

I never liked kheer ...and black dal ..I don't know it's another name ..which my husband got at home but on never liked it.

But,on that day I felt it to be very tasty.

It gave the feeling which we might not have got in any restaurant.

Seriously,When you have langar you feel blessed and feel different kind of vibration..blessings.

Felt Grateful!!

This was my first experience of langar.

Inspite of visiting Gurudwara in Hyderabad and Jaipur ..I never had the opportunity of having langar.

Though we got our gas cylinder the very next morning but that feeling of langar was overwhelming.

It was an experience of which I was devoid for a very long time.

One must experience it once in their lifetime.

one must be open to learn from different faiths.

And keertan..I don't know what it is called exactly in Punjabi..helps you to be so peaceful.

You feel like keep on listening to them.

Langar ... waheguru ji ka Prasad 🙏

Waheguru da Khalsa waheguru di Fateh 

situations!

Sometimes Life puts you in such situations which makes you sure what you want in life .

It makes us to understand what kind of life you want and what kind of life you don't want.

True ...very very true that Time is the biggest teacher..which makes you ti understand what is need to be paid heed to and what not.

Being a women I have seen my mother going through the situation..in which I am today ..but I might not have understood it fully seeing her.

It's true that when we go through or experience the situation then only we can realise .. through what she has gone through.

Still in Indian families. ..bahu(daughter -in-law) is expected to be in the kitchen all the time .. breakfast.. lunch..dinner ...she is not allwoed to let her move her head upward..

Are we meant to be in kitchen all the time ??

Today ..this situation has thought me that I don't want this kind of life at all .. never...ever ...

Taking stand for yourself and setting boundaries is very important..not for society ...but for yourself.

If we don't teach our daughters this quality then they will suffer inside only.  ..

I am proud of myself that I have taken stand whenever it was needed..

And it keeps on reminding yourself to pat yourself than expecting it from others.

Self respect is more n more important than anything...any relationship.

Love 

Me.