Thursday 14 March 2024

Changing Definitions of Birthday Celebration!!

As we grow old ... birthday's seems to loose the charm from our life...as it's a fact that life ...and stages of life doesn't remain same 


Except WhatsApp status and Instagram stories .. birthday are same usual days as other days of the year.

Once upon a time ..that's when we were kids ...now we have our own kids ...I used to count the days from Jan or Feb itself ...as March month started ..as this was the exam's time .


When I was in school almost fifteen days before birthday,Mind used to start gamble upon topics/questions..which now seems to be insane
-My Birthday dress..I used to back of my mom dad ...for dress.
-Friend to whom you will be taking along with you to teachers for giving chocolates.
-I even used to think about the box in which you will put your chocolates..haha 😂


As you go to college,
Your celebrate it with them.
In the first year of engineering we used to vist Mc'd on each and every one's birthday..we were almose 8 members in our group.
They gifted me make up ...haha ..and literally they put on my face ..as I hated it..and dressed simply..I mean I was like a tomboy.

In our second year ..we started celebrating our birthday's in an boys orphanage.

From 3rd year,we started movies along lunch.
After the entry of WhatsApp in our life... WhatsApp groups used to be formed excluding the one ..whose birthday is approaching.

These groups..like Jacobian clubs/groups used to be the place ..digital space ..to discuss about contribution..ideas ..how and where to celebrate..it used to be planned out well before hand .. surprising the birthday girl ( I was in the girls college).

Then again after coming home ..my students..my tuition students..from all the batches used to visit and every batch used to get cakes .. students of the particular year ..all the classes..they used to decorayone of the room or terece..and letting me enter only after they are prepared..lol ...that was all fun ..that was the time worth living.

Before corona ..and before my wedding..that was the last year of such kind of celebrations...I think I miss ..all the fun I used to have with my students..dancing till 10pm along with them.my college friends kalyani and Pooja also used to visit home ..and kalyani used to dance her heart out along with kids .. 😂😆


Every phase is very important in our lives.

Then comes the birthday's..when your style of celebration changes..as you gets married.

Now your spouse surprises you with surprise trips.

This is my 3rd birthday after marriage..and this time I just feel like staying at home .. sitting calmly in peace and that's the kind of day is itself seems to be a celebrations in itself.

Maybe we tend to expect less from people..from life.

Kind of celebrations keeps changing as you age or enter a new phase of life ..it may be being a wifey,mother !!

Accepting  it and embracing it !!

College life is always the best and having girls groups  is a blessing!!


Life has moved on ..every one is doing best at their pace .
You might not be talking everyday but you feel immense happiness..as soon as any new picture from any of your friend pop's up on social media sites ..
Some people gives you memories for lifetime and college friends are Indeed those.

You again get some gems at your work place and they can't be forgotten and I am blessed to have them in life...who keeps on reminding me of my college days ..all the fun 90's kids could have .. irrespective of the states in which they have grown up.


Note:90's kids have done almost all the things in the same way !!

If anything forgotten.. would love to hear!!



This blog post is part
of the blog ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’ Blogaberry Challenge
in collaboration with Mads Cook House



Friday 1 March 2024

Tug of war between ❤️ and 🧠

Samiksha and Dhruv are pregnant of 5 months ..Their 6th month was about to start.

Samiksha was in Bangalore for her first Trimester and after that she came to her in law's place ..stayed their for a week and trust me it was the hardest week of her life ...crying crying ..no sleep ..as she wanted dhruv.. she went with Dhruv to Delhi after that ..as he took her with him seeing her condition .....and was staying from past two months.

After staying for two months she was feeling home sick ...and he was about to visit his parents but she didnt wanted to go to her In Law's place and instead booked tickets for her place..i.e Bangalore.

On the day of leaving ..i.e on 1st of March ...her flight was around 11:20 am.
As soon as she booked her tickets on 29th Feb ..she couldn't stop crying ...



You all might be like why was she crying??
She must be happy as she was about to leave for her own place.

But she was not happy 

Why so ??

As She just wanted to stay with Dhruv ..live and feel every moment of their pregnancy phase with him..whom she loved immensely..who was her life and vice versa.

In the evening as he was back from office..they both were very emotional and till next morning this time they couldn't decide whether to leave for her own place or in law's place ??

On the day of 1st March ...From 3:40am she couldn't sleep...and she was unable to decided whether to leave or not ?

She was facing the battle ...a war between her heart and mind.

This was the first time that they were not able to decided anything...she was just blank till 8am ..the time when she had to leave for the airport.
The last night they even tried to find out how to cancel the flight ticket and respective airlines refund policy.
In the morning twice or thrice they thought of cancelling but didn't do .

Finally,by 8:10am she cancelled it and didn't go to Bangalore and Instead decided to visit her in law's place along with him.

She was unable to understand what was happening and why she was not able to take one step.

What was this tug of war ?
Why this happened?
What was happening to her ?
Why she don't want to go to her home where she can her own time ...mental peace.

Is she the only one who came across such a situation?







This blog post is part
of the blog ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’ Blogaberry Challenge
in collaboration with Mads Cook House