Wednesday 16 February 2022

Dilemmas!!



Shikha was doing great in her life.she was successfully running her own institute at vijaywada.she had 50+ students in different batches.
She enjoyed doing this.she loved sharing knowledge,teaching kids.within no time she got the art of interacting with different kids.
She could easily understand kids.she had students from the class 1-12th.
So,this experience of 10+ years have made her to learn so many things from new generation.
Every year ,every new batch thought her new things,gave her different experiences.
She was fully content with what she was doing.
Taking classes from 5pm-9:30pm, forgetting to touch her phone.
In the morning she could help her parents and spent enough time with the family.she could study her favourite novels.
She could experiment writing, scribbling in her diary.
She always thought that this phase is permanent.It will go the same way through out her life.
She thought so as she was never interested to get married.
Atlast she bowed down to her parents wish of her getting married.
She never understood the concept of marriage.she never ever imagined herself as a bride.
Never ..
But once she met him ..Rahul ..her concept of marriage changed.
He made her to see how beautiful life can be with the person you love.How beautiful a marriage can be .
She got married to Rahul and got shifted to Barmer (Rajasthan).
It was quite difficult for her to get used to the culture.
After marriage,girls life changes upside down.she gets transformed in to a kind of person she never imagined.
Her dressing style , everything changes.
On that she have to get adapted to different state among different people.
Rahul turns out to be her best friend and helps her to get adapted to the new place.
But again

There is only one thing going on in her mind.
What's next ??
Mother in law starts asking about family planning.
But she have what to do in her life ??
What she will be doing now?
Either plan a baby or join some school for a year.so that she can get an experience and later on can plan a baby.
Later on giving time of 5 years to baby again she can join school or start coaching in Barmer.

A girl has lot many questions going in mind

Right now I am 30.will this be effecting to my baby plans ?

If i don't join any school now .will i be getting a job later on??after 5years??

Should I be going for higher studies?

If yes,where Vijayawada?? Rajasthan??

Will this be affecting in law home environment??

If i start tuitions now ?? If i am not able to continue ??

Should I be shifting to jaipur with husband ??

Etc ..etc..so many questions at a time ..

Sometimes shikha thinks is she the only going through this kind of dilemma or is it a kahani of every girl after marriage??? 

10 comments:

  1. Dilemma's are part and parcel of life, few decisions are taken by logical mind and few from heart. You have potrayed dilemma of Shikha very well in the story.

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  2. Yes after marriage girls have to think so many aspects and they can not take a single decision on their own. hope things change for better in future.

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  3. Such dilemmas are very common. But we only have the answer. Everything boils down to what we want from our life. There will be dilemmas, roadblocks. But there will be alternatives too. We have to decide which side we have to go.

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  4. Yes, I feel this is dilemma of every girl life. I also have same dilemma after my marriage and totally change my profession from teacher to influencer and blogger.

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  5. Every girl goes through the these two phases of life and the changes that comes along in the way. It is tough but the right person can make the journey smooth.

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  6. I won't say this is the Kahani of every girl but yes society has majority of this kind of girls who spend major part of their life in Dilemma, thinking of this and that, struggling between finding a path or following a path.

    Archana
    archusblog

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  7. As rightly pointed out in your blog post about Shikha, we all have such Dilemas throughout life and for a girl it is further tough as after marriage and kids she has to think from all aspects and not just for herself.

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  8. This is a thought provoking post. It's more like every woman ever. But we can change it.

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  9. This is the story of every woman out there. But there are people. Who are already bringing in. Change in the society
    -sindhu

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  10. True, there is a paradigm shift in a woman's life after marriage and many things change for her from being a girl to a woman and the budding expectations of the family. She has to meet all and hence the dilemma continues.

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